Beat Addiction with Exercise and Nutrition

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Actor or Director. Who Do You Think You Are?

Strange that as soon as we get clean and sober, we think that the world around us has also embarked upon a wonderful transition. And magically people will understand our problems, believe in us, cast away doubt and suspicion, re-hire us, open doors for us, give us what we want or need. There may be a sense of entitlement. The reward is just around the corner. Unfortunately, reality proves to be rather different.

So many of us climb Mt. Pity Party. From our perch high above, we spend many of those first days, months, or years of our recovery being flustered, frustrated and downright pissed-off that the world is not conforming to our needs, demands, plans, desires or vision. Last time I checked, getting clean and sober did not convey superpowers or godliness. So why do we so often think and act as if it has?

The Big Book speaks to this on pages 60-61. About the actor wanting to run the whole show, knowing that if only people did just as he said, everything would work out right. This is the egocentric thinking of a child!

I write in my book about the relapse trap that our need to control really is. “Understanding that many things are beyond your control, no matter how you plan, or what you try to do, alleviates the struggle and fight for control of everything. After all, if we believe we have total control, don’t we then bear total responsibility?” And that’s the trap! Classic self-sabotage.

Remember, we have control over our actions, our responses, our emotions. That’s what we are responsible for. We do not have control over anything else. Certainly not outcomes.

So let go. It’s okay to be the actor. Remember, the director’s chair is reserved for someone or something greater than us all. Make sure you stay in the right role.

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We Stood At The Turning Point

How many thousands of times have I read that line as part of How It Works (p58)  in the Big Book? And I think about my relapses. All of them. Not just the “Went to treatment, white-knuckled it for a year and then ‘suddenly’ had a drink.” The relapses that I never considered to be relapses. Like the time I was challenged to not drink for 30 days. I did it. But I crossed each day off the calendar until I could drink again. Of course, I still used during that time. Couldn’t stop that for 30 days!

How many hundreds (thousands?) of times did I say to myself that night, or the next morning, “This has to end. Now.” But, of course, it didn’t.  Or at the end of the work day, “Tonight, just tonight, I won’t stop by the grocery store for more booze.” Yet my car seemed to  drive itself straight into the parking lot all by itself.

We often think we are at the “turning point”, but until we  truly take full measures, rather than 1/2, or 3/4, or 1/3 -measures,  we are bound to head back into the darkness that is addiction.

Was looking through my Spring hiking pictures and thought this series an appropriate metaphor regarding standing at the turning point – and what it really means when we stray from the light.

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Stay in the light, or not? No. “I’ve got this!” Right? I’ll just go a few feet inside. Gotta see what it’s like.

We stood at the turning point 2

Just a little farther. It will be ok. And who are “they” to tell me to stop, anyway!?

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We stood at the turning point 3

What are you going to do? How and where do you want to live? In the darkness and isolation? Or among the living?

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Coping Mechanisms – How Healthy Are Yours?

We strive to develop positive coping skills in recovery because they help us deal with urges, cravings, and our triggers to use.  Remember, coping skills can be healthy or unhealthy – and are the sum total of ways that we deal with stress, trauma, and other problems we face.

In our addictions, we got into habits of using negative coping skills to deal with life: in fact, drinking and drugging was our “go-to” coping mechanism. Conflict at work? Take a pill. Wife has custody of the kids this week? Get an 8-ball. Bills piling up? Head to the bar. Boyfriend won’t talk to me? Get trashed.

These negative coping skills became automatic. Other examples of negative coping skills:  manipulation, lying, isolation, avoidance, aggressiveness/anger/violence. Maybe we became  passive-aggressive, became people-pleasers, or acted out.

How then to unlearn and change? The first step is to recognize and call-out our old behaviors. This, as the Big Book states, requires “rigorous self-honesty.” Sorry, you may wish for this, but there is no “easier, softer way.” It takes hard work and practice to identify, replace and change our old ways of thinking. But isn’t that what you signed up for in recovery? Isn’t that what you really want? Because our old ways just don’t cut it any more. And haven’t for quite some time. Healthy coping skills are the foundation of a new way of life.

Take a look at the photo of a recent group we did. What would you add to the list? How many positive and negative coping skills can you identify with?

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Ever find your mind racing down a path you don’t want to travel?

Ever find your mind racing down a path you don’t want to travel? Catastrophizing about the future? Engaging mental gymnastics inside your head to debate points or events now irrelevant? Why do we torment ourselves so?

My experience indicates the answer is this: automatic thinking. Sure, part of this emotional turmoil is related to post-acute withdrawal. But even for many of us with years of abstinence, this “debate society” in our heads won’t shut up.

In our addictions, we cultivated and grew a vast crop of distorted thinking patterns. Defense mechanisms that allowed us to deny, justify, rationalize, minimize and cast blame for our addictions and indefensible behaviors. Irrational thinking that was impulsive, made assumptions, jumped to conclusions – negative conclusions. And these patterns of thinking became automatic.

Just because we are suddenly clean and sober, doesn’t mean we aren’t still stuck in our own BS.

So how do we get unstuck? Becoming more self-aware. Practicing new ways of thinking.

One technique I use is “thought stopping.” I try to catch myself when my brain starts hurtling down the tracks of negativity. How do I know this is happening? For me, I find myself first starting to feel uncomfortable and irritable. My blood pressure goes up. I can feel my face flush and heart rate increase. My mind begins racing with thoughts of how I would have, could have, should have, must ____________ (fill in the blank). I’m either trying to rewrite history, or author the future.

When you feel this way, stop. Deconstruct what is going on. Usually, we are triggered by something. What was that activating event? Keep in mind that whatever this trigger was is objective. In and of itself, it does not cause your emotions. Your beliefs about the trigger are what result in your emotion and reaction.

So look at what your beliefs are about this event. My old ways of thinking would be conflicted, pessimistic, catastrophic.

That negative thinking results then in my feeling stressed, uncomfortable and increasingly agitated, irritated and angry. I don’t like feeling like this – but I know a way to not feel this. That’s right. Using. So the natural result is getting an urge or craving to use. Score one for your disease.

It takes work and practice to identify, dispute, and then change our old ways of thinking. I liken it to learning to shoot a basketball jump-shot when all you know is a two-handed-push shot from your chest. Your way old way worked for a while and you made some baskets. But it quickly lost its effectiveness. And certainly has no place in a game beyond grade school. Learning the new way takes willingness, open-mindedness, practice, attention, focus and…time. You’ll feel uncomfortable. You may miss more shots initially using your new method. But eventually, your game, self-confidence and effectiveness will take a leap forward. Score two for your sobriety.

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Metaphors of Recovery – 2/15/2015

So many principles of recovery….and life…cross my mind when I’m out hiking. Helps me maintain perspective. It’s not just about the exercise and the fresh air and sunshine. Patience, nurture, faith, acceptance, healing – rebirth. The tree reminds me that the scars from a life of addiction can be channeled into something beautiful and enduring. The petroglyphs remind me that others have come before me; and more will follow. When I’m out there, I can’t help but be “right-sized.” And the crystal clear pool, despite the fact it hasn’t rained in a month? A metaphor for “the promises.” It’s all there. We simply need to put one foot in front of the other. And keep an open mind.Hike pool 20150215 Hike petroglyphs 20150215 Hike huge rock 20150216 Hike honeycomb 20150216 Hike honeycomb 20150215 Hike cactus 20150215


Fitness Tips – Getting Started – 2/10/15

The best exercise is the one you want to do!

While I want to encourage readers to get active in recovery, there are some important things to consider first, especially if you’ve recently stopped drugging and drinking.

  • In early recovery we are more prone health and injury problems. This is because we been sedentary, malnourished, and (probably) smoking; and the drugs/alcohol caused damage to our cardiovascular, nervous, endocrine, digestive, musculoskeletal (and other) systems.
  • Addiction has not been kind to our bodies (or minds). Even though you might be starting to look better on the outside, your insides may not be keeping up with that progress.
  • We tend to want to over-do it. “Make up for lost time.” There’s a saying in AA, “Time takes time.” Believe it. As much as you might want to, you cannot change the laws of physics or biology. Slow down.
  • Think in terms of “journey”, rather than “destination.”
  • Keep an open-mind. I have more problems with former athletes than I do with those who were not particularly athletic prior to addiction. Why? Because the former athletes tend to go too hard, too fast. This can lead to disappointment because of unrealistic expectations, or injury, or quitting.
  • Remember, anything you do now is more than you were doing before! Think in terms of progress, rather than what “people” “should” or “must” or “are expected” to do.
  • Your goal for each day should be suiting up and showing up. Just like they say in 12-step meetings, “Don’t drink or use. Go to meetings.” Same principle here.
  • Make sure you’re cleared by a medical professional prior to engaging in any program of activity or exercise.
How do we reach new heights in our recovery/exercise programs? One step, one day, at a time.

Developing the Exercise Habit!

How can we develop new, productive exercise habits? We know that our old, drug-taking habits produced instantaneous, abundant neurotransmitter-cascade “rewards.” In fact, drugs provide approximately 10 times the neurochemical reward that “normal” healthy or desirable activities do (4). This was why it was so easy to get hooked.

Those addiction-oriented pathways will be with us forever. But the less we reinforce them (by abstaining from psychoactive chemicals and addictive behaviors like gambling, excessive shopping, etc.), the more they atrophy (weaken or deteriorate). Anyone who has had to wear a cast on an arm or leg for a month or more can attest to how a lack of use results in atrophy. We want our addiction-oriented thinking and old behaviors’ pathways to atrophy. One way to do that is to replace bad habits with good.

An action or activity is a habit when it is automatic. Learning to ride a bicycle or drive a car is automatic for most of us. We don’t need to think about how we do it; we just go do it! But learning that ability required practice and repetition. Making something a habit, (like eating right), takes conscious effort and perseverance over a period of about 90 days.

Remember, these new, healthy activities, like exercise, don’t have the same immediate super-strong rewards that psychoactive drugs gave us. So we must persevere even when we don’t feel so good, or so rewarded. We must continue to “exercise” that new behavior on a daily basis or else it will self-extinguish.

Programming new habits is critical because we all know from experience that willpower is not enough – whether it is in recovery or maintaining an exercise or diet plan. Therefore, it is critical that we invest the time, energy and commitment to develop exercise as a habit. That means regular, consistent action augmented by Small Wins SM each and every day, for at least 90 days.

To prevent relapse, new healthy behaviors must become an auto-pilot function — a good habit driven by our mid-brain.


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Healthy Recovery Eating Tips

Remember, in early recovery, your body cannot tell the difference between drug/alcohol cravings and food cravings!

Follow the following tips for success:

  • Eat regularly. Do not skip breakfast or any other meal.
  • Have five or six small meals per day. Example: breakfast, mid-morning snack, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner.
  • Manage your cravings for sweets with fresh fruits such as apples, grapes, bananas, berries.
  • Manage your cravings for fat with foods such as nuts, avocado, olives, dairy, salmon.
  • Use the 3-2-1 rule of thumb to guide your dietary choices in early recovery. That means about half of your calories come from carbohydrates, one-third from protein and one-sixth from fat. With more consistency (time) in both recovery and as a healthy eater, you may wish to alter the ratios of carbs and protein.
  • Eat until no longer hungry, not until full.
  • Eat meals with others if possible. Eating while reading or watching TV makes us tend to over-eat.
  • Have plenty of healthy foods available as snacks. These can be fruit, vegetables, protein bars, yogurt, etc.
  • Plan your meals and grocery shop when you’re NOT hungry. Make a list and stick to the list. Avoid the impulse-items!
  • Make sure you get plenty of vegetables, beans, lean meats, fresh fruit, dairy, grains, nuts/seeds and fiber in your diet.
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Keep caffeine intake to one or two cups of coffee per day.
  • Clean and prep food. Refrigerate. Fresh meals and snacks ready in a jiffy!

In my early recovery, I did not follow this advice. I didn’t know any better. And it hardly seemed important compared to all my other problems. Sadly, not only did I prolong the emotional roller-coaster, sleeplessness, cravings and overall struggle of early recovery, I gained 40 pounds.

Remember, the reason we crave candy and fatty foods is because they trigger the same addictive pathways in our brain that drugs and alcohol do! We have the benefit of knowing this now.

And to those who would state that it’s just too much to start a slow, measured approach to changing their diet, I say this, “Stopping drinking and drugging seemed like ‘too much’, too. Yet you’ve done it. So why not give yourself every advantage you can to feel better faster and get the totality of your life back on track?”

A recovery lifestyle is about more than surviving and white-knuckling it. It’s about thriving and reaching new heights – not just “getting back to where I used to be.”

Bring the best body and mind you can for the journey!

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Some Days I Don’t Feel Like It, But I Go Anyway!

A real-life success story from a reader.  This is a perfect example of how to get it done, keep it fresh and feel GREAT!
While I was in the military, I had to stay in shape or lose my job, so I worked exercise into my lifestyle.  I tried to get a minimum 2 mile walk in Monday through Friday, by getting off the bus 2 miles before my house, and walking home.  By religiously doing this I was able to pass the required 1.5 mile run every 6 months.  
Since retiring, I walk on MWF to a meeting that is 2 miles from my house – so I get 4 miles round trip.  Some days I don’t feel like going to the meeting but I go anyway to get the walk in.  Some days I don’t feel like walking, but am expected at the meeting, so I go anyway.  On Tues, Thurs, Sat I lift weights and  take classes in Tai Chi and Folk Dancing.  I have also been using an activity tracker (Up) to track my steps and a food program (Lose It!) to record my food.  The activity tracker synchs with the food program.  What I like about the food program is that it shows daily percentages for carbohydrate, fat, and protein.  I have noticed that when I eat more protein and less carb I lose weight.  The more activity I do, the more calories I can add to my food plan.  I am in really good shape.  I recently shared in a meeting that I was 62 years old.  I had people come up to me after the meeting and say to me that they had no idea I was so old.  I said, “This is what you get when you don’t drink or smoke and you eat well, exercise and wear sunscreen.”  My blood-panel values are perfect too.
How are you integrating fitness and nutrition into your recovery? Let me know! I’m happy to publish your story and name. Or maintain  your anonymity.
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How I Gained 40 and Lost 60+ Pounds in Recovery!

When I exited hospital detox September 10, 2001, I weighed 20 pounds over my healthy weight. Not age-25 weight. Not collegiate-athlete weight. Healthy, average, 40-year old woman weight. From there, over the next four months, I gained an additional 40 pounds!

Finally, my doctor said “Hey, you know what? You’re now officially obese. I know you’re trying to stay clean and sober, and I wasn’t worried about weight gain initially. Unfortunately your blood pressure is way up. You need to do something about this. Here’s the number for a dietician. Call her.”

I did feel fat. I was fat! But somehow I really hadn’t noticed it (or was in denial) because I felt so good about the fact that I was actually staying clean and sober – and felt that maybe I was getting a little bit better each and every day.

What was happening?

Well, in hindsight, it’s pretty simple to see. Not only was all the sugar and fat I was eating helping to satisfy drug and alcohol cravings, but I was eating to my feelings! In spite of the fact that I felt better in some ways, I still felt terrible about myself in many other ways. Little did I know that my eating habits were like pouring gasoline on a fire of mood swings, racing thoughts, irritability and fatigue …and, of course, cardiovascular disease.

The strange thing about it was this: my over-eating and bingeing on bags of candy and chocolate reminded me of that last vestige of sanity before I went over the cliff into addiction. Remember that moment when your sane brain said “Hey, this drinking/drug usage has crossed a line. This is no longer normal partying/using”? And your addictive brain responded, “F-U, I’ll do what I want!”?

So, I went to see the dietician. And immediately felt overwhelmed by her advice. Maybe I wasn’t listening. Or maybe I heard what I expected to hear. I simply felt that what she was telling me to do way too much all at once.

Why? Food had become my security blanket. I had just given up drugs and alcohol. I needed something. And darn it! I had earned that! (Anyone recognize the addictive and impulsive thinking here?)

That’s why, in the book, I emphasize the importance of changing our diets in recovery, but making small, incremental changes based upon the Small Wins SM approach.

Maintain a long-term outlook. But make small changes in the short-run. Set realistic, attainable goals. It shouldn’t be too easy. But it shouldn’t be too hard, either.

My first step in losing 60+ total pounds was stopping the Gummi Bears. I still over-ate other foods and chocolate. But this was a process — progress, not perfection. The key point was that I had become aware that my eating choices had become problematic both to my physical health and to my recovery. It was up to me to take responsibility for the change that needed to take place. Incidentally, it took me two years to lose the weight. And I did so by removing some foods from my diet, substituting for others, and introducing light, then moderate, exercise into my lifestyle.

And I won’t lie and say it’s not something I need to watch to this day. And my weight has bounced +/- 10 pounds at various times in recovery. But that’s who I am. I can’t do certain things like other “normal” people. I also can’t run anymore because of arthritis in my knee. I can choose to complain and make excuses, or I can choose to take full responsibility, make the necessary adjustments, and live life on life’s terms. I chose the latter. So should you.